A resident of Satpayev told how she put on a hijab and became a second wife

A resident of Satpayev told how she put on a hijab and became a second wife

A 30-year-old resident of Satpayev with many children spent ten years in a destructive religious movement and wore a black burqa, hiding even her face. Under the influence of her husbands, she forced even her young daughters to cover their heads with a headscarf and wear a hijab. In addition, she did not allow them to watch cartoons, play in the yard, and forced them to learn sermons and prayers. From such psychological pressure, the woman's children often cried, and the older child withdrew into himself. "I come from a large family, we have always lived modestly. They lived in a two-room apartment. They were interrupted from one loan to the second. I am the eldest child in the family. It all started when I met my first husband at the age of 20.

At that time, he seemed perfect to me, since he did not smoke, did not drink, and read namaz. From the very first day of our communication, he stated that serious, we should perform the rite nikah and to live together. I admit that I was young and stupid. He messed with my head so much that I agreed to his offer. And without the permission of the parents made nikah and began to cohabit with him. It did not occur to me then that to perform such a rite, you need to visit a mosque, get the blessing of your parents, etc. We were" painted "with allegedly Muslim marriage ties by strangers who have nothing to do with the clergy," the woman said. At the time of the wedding, the 20-year-old naive girl was not with her fiance, but in the company of women who called themselves her sisters. And the groom himself was in another building with the same adherents of a destructive religious trend.

Their conversation was conducted over the phone and instead of the girl's father, his role was played by a completely stranger to her. "After Nikita, my husband rented an apartment and we started living together. My parents were very upset when they found out, but there was no turning back. My husband immediately bought me a hijab and niqab and forbade me to communicate with my parents, who, in his opinion, were not true Muslims, because they did not read namaz. Even when I went to their house, he forbade me to eat the food they prepared. He said that I should not communicate with them, but should spend more time with my sisters in the faith, who instructed me and gave me various advice. Later, at his insistence, my light clothes and headscarf were changed to black. He began to make me even close my eyes, " the heroine said.

The girl's parents periodically visited her and tearfully asked her to change her mind and take off her black clothes. Once her father tried to take her things by force, threatening to burn them. But the woman didn't give them away. She said it was her choice and family. However, in reality, life was not easy. My husband practically did not work anywhere, and lived mainly on the help of his"brothers". For eight years of marriage, the woman gave birth to four children and secretly took them to the clinic for vaccinations. Because my husband was categorically against vaccination, considering that the injectable drugs were made with an admixture of pork. "When we were ill, we were not allowed to take medicine. They told us to pray. He taught me prayer. I read it five times a day and didn't even know I was doing anything wrong. He forbade us to watch TV, even for children. Forced to teach children prayers and verses. Read more: https://www.nur.kz/1867364-zitelnica-satpaeva-rasskazala-kak-nadela-hidzab-i-stala-vtoroj-zenoj.htmlРодители girls periodically visited her and tearfully asked her to change her mind and take off her black clothes. Once her father tried to take her things by force, threatening to burn them. But the woman didn't give them away. She said it was her choice and family. However, in reality, life was not easy. My husband practically did not work anywhere, and lived mainly on the help of his"brothers". For eight years of marriage, the woman gave birth to four children and secretly took them to the clinic for vaccinations. Because my husband was categorically against vaccination, considering that the injectable drugs were made with an admixture of pork. "When we were ill, we were not allowed to take medicine. They told us to pray. He taught me prayer. I read it five times a day and didn't even know I was doing anything wrong. He forbade us to watch TV, even for children. Forced to teach children prayers and verses.

They often cried because they wanted to watch cartoons and play outside. Instead, they wore headscarves and did not show themselves to men when they came to our house. If male guests came home, I put everything on the table before they came, and then went to another room, " the woman shares. After eight years of this marriage, the heroine divorced her first husband. She was encouraged to break up by her sisters, who saw him gambling. The named brother, who played the role of her father during the nickname, also joined in. He said that from now on he was responsible for her and the children and would help them. The man kept his word.

He paid for a rented apartment, gave her and the children food. But after a while, he demanded that she get married. As the second husband he chose for her a man who was under the age of three years. He was already married, and the woman was to be his second wife. "I used to communicate well with my second husband's wife. But after our nickname, the relationship with her broke down. She often made scandals, even once came to my house. His parents were also against me. Despite this, I endured for the sake of my children, because it seemed to me that I alone could not cope with their upbringing and would not be able to feed them.

Going back to my parents wasn't an option. They don't live very well themselves. As a result, I became pregnant with my second husband and gave birth to a fifth baby. But we often quarreled with him. Because he was tougher than my first husband. He did not like my children, often deprived them. And he also treated his child without much love. But he demanded my strict obedience, so that I always went in black. He also completely forbade me to communicate with my parents. This was the last straw. I decided to break up with him and took off all black, " the woman said. After the Epiphany, the woman turned to experienced theologians and the Imam of the local mosque. There she was told that she had been living in delusion for the past ten years. Now she understands how she personally ruined her life.

She has no education, no profession, no job. The only source of income is an allowance. Her parents also help her. "I am glad that, although belatedly, I have seen the light. Now I understand that my husband could take me and my children to Syria. He often talked about it. In General, all their conversations on the phone and on video calls were about Syria, Damascus, helping the brothers, and so on. They supported bloodshed and other things that make normal people's hair stand on end. So I encourage young girls not to be as stupid as I am. If you need true knowledge about Islam, go to the mosque, to the theologians, listen to the Spiritual administration of the Muslims of Kazakhstan and read only books approved by them. No need to search for the truth or true Islam on the Internet. It is not there, " said a resident of Satpayev.

 


As a Kazakh woman in a hijab said earlier, she does not believe that a girl who bares body parts will burn in hell, and an Almaty man set up children against his wife because of her refusal to wear a headscarf.